International Relations: The Importance of Personal Diplomacy

Author: Muharem Rusiti

Photo: Markus Krisetya

When we think of diplomacy and international relations, we instantly imagine a series of official meetings between representatives of different States or organizations in the usual formal settings. In other words, the classical suit and tie, full of protocols and perhaps – depending on the level of formality and secrecy of the encounter – press conference, final handshake and possibly photo op type of situation.

While this old-fashioned way of conducting diplomatic affairs is still – despite the whole new remote era – the gold standard in fostering relations between international parties, it is often times unfortunately insufficient. To fully strengthen those interactions, counterparts should find the necessary common ground to solve issues and achieve the desired outcomes, or simply build robust partnership in any given field.

And while it is widely acknowledged that these formal and procedural activities entertained by diplomats, government officials, public servants, and other such representatives are at the core of international relations, the vital importance of direct involvement on a more personal level is an indispensable resource of diplomacy.

These kind of diplomatic engagements – labeled as personal diplomacy – basically entail direct leader-to-leader encounters in less formal settings and venues, which help create a friendly and relaxed climate of détente between interlocutors. As a corollary, the engagement will lead to a more thorough, meaningful relations and trust between parties.

It is well- known that career and professional diplomats do not always see leaders engaging in personal diplomacy initiatives favorably, because they consider them as generally less skilled and with fewer expertise in conducting such activities. However, history has repeatedly demonstrated the great value of these ties and connections in solving international issues, particularly when heads of state have amicable and cordial interactions.

So, when it comes to the nitty-gritty what leaders should actually more often do, is trying to engage in direct interactions with their fellow counterparts and possibly in informal settings. Having a drink in front of a BBQ with both your staffs – instead of a classical protocolar gala dinner for instance – where you can have a relaxed and frank conversation. The exchange of opinions, point of view and ideas in a more loosened atmosphere would greatly facilitate and help build closer ties and fruitful relations between parties. And of course, these meetings should – as always – be preceded by a scrupulous and careful preparation, to avoid any possible faux pas, gaffe or incomprehension.

As Abraham Lincoln used to say: “When the conduct of men is designed to be influenced, persuasion, kind, unassuming persuasion, should ever be adopted. It is an old and a true maxim, that a “drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.” So, with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend.”

Because at the end of the day, we should always remember that governments and organizations are run by humans who have sympathies and moods. Thus, building a relationship of cordiality, and perhaps sometimes of friendship, between leaders could be a game changer in creating trust between parties and promoting a climate of collaboration. The outcome of personal diplomacy will usher solutions necessary to solve issues and fostering potential partnerships.